Pretty sure my mom wants me to not have a career in music.

[Brae.]

As many of you know, I'm a drummer. I take my playing very seriously and even playing with the most no-name artist but having enough to get by as a result of it would be my dream come true, but lately it just seems like my mom tries to steer me away from this lifestyle anyway she can.

Today set me off - I was offered the opportunity to come in and meet with a guy who runs a studio about 20 min away from where I live, where he also does lessons. A girl I know is a friend of his and he needed a new guy to do drum lessons. She told him about the contest, and he was super impressed I made it so far and she said the job was basically mine already, all I had to do was meet with him and take it. One day we noticed a dent in the front of our van (the only wheels I'm allowed to drive - but they still drive it more than me). Mom is convinced it was my fault saying "ohh if it wasn't parked at someones house, it may not have happened" but it looks like a truck backed into it, because it's up high on the hood of the van - I know no one who drives a truck. She says this is the reasoning why she won't let me drive up there - but I know it's more than that.

Even when I was in university, I started playing with some people I met in there and she would get mad saying "You're not in there to play music, you're there to study" I told her I'm obviously not going to study 24 hours a day and I needed other things to keep me sane from the work - like drumming. So, in my tiny dorm room - I have the old, clunky drum kit the dorm owns set up in there, and she not let me bring in my smaller, better sounding kit to uni for the reason that is mentioned above.

In september, I'm supposed to be laying down some tracks for my friends first ep - she basically told me I'm cut off if I take more than an afternoon to get it done.

Fuck. I just want to teach these lessons. I'm getting next to no hours at the liquor store, and getting paid only $10 an hour - while starting pay for nonstudents is $17. These lessons would be $15 a hour - 2 lessons a hour. Jaysus.

[Harvey Specter]

You should be able to kill two birds with one stone and play drums while attending university.
But I can understand your mom's concern, she wants what is best for you and getting your degree and finding a steady job is the smarter and safer decision.  That isn't to say you're wrong with wanting to play drums though, I think you could very well do both if you are good with time management.   Sorry about the van though, that really does blow chunks.

Since I can't think of any better advice, you just keep on rocking the free world.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PdiCJUysIT0

[theedge00]

its your hobby right, it doesn't have to be one or the other.

[Oliver]

I would think you'd be able to do both.

It's ok to have a dream about becoming a professional musician, but you need a backup plan, because the fact of the matter is, drummers are a dime a dozen and it's ridiculously hard to make it in music. I am not saying it can't be done or that you shouldn't give up on your dream. Just have a plan in case it doesn't work.

I think you mom is just concerned (and rightfully so) that you will toss your college education away tin the hopes you will make it as a pro musician. Which hopefully that is not your intent.

[Brae.]

The thing is I do have a backup plan! I'm doing my co-op commerce program, im 2 years in so far all with flying colours. I'm working with the liquor corp. for the summer, hoping I can get in their offices for my work term - I find out tomorrow if I get my grant as a promotions officer, which is right up my ally for going into marketing.

I am planning ahead and being smart, I just have time to do both. Arrrghh. I just wanna teach kids to play drums and get paid a mint to do it.

And Casey - Neil is my man. One more reason why we're awesome up north.

[dildo69er]

i gave guitar lessons, whilst working, whilst studying at uni. if you time manage theres NO reason this cant be done.

there will the odd time you might have to cancel a lesson to study...as i agree with your mum school should come first whilst you are there... so if you need study a shit load or finish an assignment etc to me that should come first

[GrandpaQueefer]

dont let your mom stop you. youre fucking 20, do your thing and live your life. she will accept it when she sees youre doing ok, if not better.

[TaylorH]

My opinion is that if you have a backup plan you're not going to make it, my opinion is most likely fucked but I can't help the way I feel